How to establish family relationships?Can we call a man a more ferocious creature than a tiger? Not­really it is harder to respond to kindness and understanding?

Parable

One woman came to the old sage for advice.

She told­hall him the following: “Talking about my husband, the sage, ” she said. — He is very dear to me. In the last three years he was in the war. But after his return he almost doesn’t talk to anyone. When I spoke with him, he appeared not to hear me. But if speaks, he speaks roughly. If I cook his favorite meals, he repels them and angrily leaves, inde­Tu. Sometimes, when he would have to work in the rice fields, I see him sitting on top of a hill and looking into the distance, the sea. I need a potion, — said the young woman, — to become a loving and affectionate person I used to be”. Continue reading

crossed her face familiarSince then many years have passed. And on that clear, Sunny day, when I walked through the streets of the city and enjoyed the summer Islands, enjoying the warm autumn sun and smiling passers-by, I met Her. Tall, slender, shimmering in the sun MOP of long hair, she slowly walked towards me. Her every movement was filled with femininity, grace and some relaxed love in life. I would have passed if I hadn’t heard:

– You’re not the first one who doesn’t recognize me, so I’m not even offended. – She laughed merrily. I turned and after a moment the confusion in my mind began to emerge a familiar way.

– LEL? You? Can’t be!

The pause is too long, and I didn’t know what to say. Unlike the previous LEL, it took the initiative in their hands and not do, where we go and what we will do. It was obvious that she was glad of the meeting, but gives me time to recover. Continue reading

Stop trying to manipulate family relationsWhen a child cannot get what you want, it starts to act up, take offense and throw tantrums — thus, it forces parents to obey his feeble will. A small miracle, walking under the table, can make adults dance to their tune.

It is not surprising that the technique of such manipulation is delayed and strengthened in his mind, as the most effective way to succeed.

But as the child Matures. Desires change, changing relationships with the world and other people, but the technique of manipulating only honed. Even where one would simply ask, in the course now comes the heavy artillery — the pressure on the pity, conscience, sense of duty, pride — just to avoid refusal and long explanations.

Manipulation is a way to get what you want from other people without having to bear for it any responsibility. Continue reading

How to build family relationshipsTo build good family relationships must meet three conditions. The first condition – the husband and wife must be bound to each other tender feelings. Second, they should equally invest in creating relationships. The third condition was fine. Without the adoption and implementation by both spouses of certain rules, regulations and prohibitions to build a stable relationship impossible.

Most problems in couples arise due to the violation of the second condition, when one of the spouses seems that he puts into the relationship much more than the other. In the first months after the wedding, you are full of plans, feelings and sensations that this happiness will be endless. But after a few months you can start annoying habits of a spouse, his manner to leave your stuff and sing in the bathroom. Continue reading

Keep a personal territory in family relationshipsAnother rampant and destructive misconception is that a man and a woman in love family relationships have to do everything together, sleep in the same bed, not have secrets and, in General, belong to each other completely.

Yes, at the initial stage of family relations and not want for a minute to break away from each other.

Friends, work, Hobbies — everything is put aside just to be together. It may be romantic, but to squeeze each other dry and immediately is dangerous. To reduce the whole meaning of life for family relations, even the most beautiful person, then to lose touch with reality.

As wonderful as these family relationships, sooner or later, they’ll tire of both. You can’t live with each other, otherwise, life will soon become black and white. But most couples do not understand and, conversely, strive to merge their lives into one. Continue reading

Freedom begets affectionTo preserve the freshness of family relations, we must abandon the pursuit of victory, certainty and stability. You need to overcome your fear and allow family relationships to teeter on the brink of fame and obscurity. Play as animals — growl, bite, rolling on the ground, but if the enemy is defeated on the scapula, it must be time to let go — because otherwise the game will end.

Through the fears and the usual representation it is difficult to cross, but the only way you can build a really light, honest and resilient family relationships.

To understand is to try it for yourself. Continue reading