a loving and affectionate person

How to establish family relationships?Can we call a man a more ferocious creature than a tiger? Not­really it is harder to respond to kindness and understanding?

Parable

One woman came to the old sage for advice.

She told­hall him the following: “Talking about my husband, the sage, ” she said. — He is very dear to me. In the last three years he was in the war. But after his return he almost doesn’t talk to anyone. When I spoke with him, he appeared not to hear me. But if speaks, he speaks roughly. If I cook his favorite meals, he repels them and angrily leaves, inde­Tu. Sometimes, when he would have to work in the rice fields, I see him sitting on top of a hill and looking into the distance, the sea. I need a potion, — said the young woman, — to become a loving and affectionate person I used to be”. Continue reading

crossed her face familiarSince then many years have passed. And on that clear, Sunny day, when I walked through the streets of the city and enjoyed the summer Islands, enjoying the warm autumn sun and smiling passers-by, I met Her. Tall, slender, shimmering in the sun MOP of long hair, she slowly walked towards me. Her every movement was filled with femininity, grace and some relaxed love in life. I would have passed if I hadn’t heard:

– You’re not the first one who doesn’t recognize me, so I’m not even offended. – She laughed merrily. I turned and after a moment the confusion in my mind began to emerge a familiar way.

– LEL? You? Can’t be!

The pause is too long, and I didn’t know what to say. Unlike the previous LEL, it took the initiative in their hands and not do, where we go and what we will do. It was obvious that she was glad of the meeting, but gives me time to recover. Continue reading

Stop trying to manipulate family relationsWhen a child cannot get what you want, it starts to act up, take offense and throw tantrums — thus, it forces parents to obey his feeble will. A small miracle, walking under the table, can make adults dance to their tune.

It is not surprising that the technique of such manipulation is delayed and strengthened in his mind, as the most effective way to succeed.

But as the child Matures. Desires change, changing relationships with the world and other people, but the technique of manipulating only honed. Even where one would simply ask, in the course now comes the heavy artillery — the pressure on the pity, conscience, sense of duty, pride — just to avoid refusal and long explanations.

Manipulation is a way to get what you want from other people without having to bear for it any responsibility. Continue reading

Freedom begets affectionTo preserve the freshness of family relations, we must abandon the pursuit of victory, certainty and stability. You need to overcome your fear and allow family relationships to teeter on the brink of fame and obscurity. Play as animals — growl, bite, rolling on the ground, but if the enemy is defeated on the scapula, it must be time to let go — because otherwise the game will end.

Through the fears and the usual representation it is difficult to cross, but the only way you can build a really light, honest and resilient family relationships.

To understand is to try it for yourself. Continue reading

Many years ago.Here comes business, successful girl. Short hair, business suit, more similar to the male, a portfolio of documents. It goes, firmly enunciating step. Look tense and staring off into the distance. She clearly does not notice the world: clouds that look like strange animals, chirping of birds, young trees that were recently planted in the Park, after which it rapidly goes to his goal.

Yes, she has a goal and no obstacles. She firmly and, if necessary firmly, to give orders to employees: when, who and what to do, where to call, what questions to resolve. Several facilities are in the plan for change. If time drags on, she personally, in spite of the late hour, gets in the car and leaves the building. To clarify the details with the Customer, negotiations with the Contractor, determine the cause of the delay, calls to other cities, the settlement of supply, to whom and how much is not paid, it is who and what is confused, what should be amended in the budget and so on, so on, so forth. Continue reading

How to build family relationshipsThere are few such families. which having lived a long life together, realize that they still can’t live without each other . Despite many mistakes, they were happy now and always, and in this case it does not matter how numerous their family.

Almost every person in life there comes a time when he really wants to have their family . No matter the conditions in which he grew up himself. If the child was brought up in a warm cozy parental nest, there is no guarantee that he will want a family faster than the one that was brought up in an orphanage. On the contrary, children from orphanages, or those that were raised by dysfunctional parents, and much rather want to acquire numerous strong family . Continue reading

How to learn to combine work and family relationships?Currently, almost every woman dreams to build a career and at the same time wants to be the perfect hostess and wife. But often, chasing two hares, catch neither one fails. One of the areas in any case will suffer. To achieve harmony both at work and in family relations it is very hard.

If for women important both these aspects and it cannot give preference to either one of them, it will have to be patient and good to work on yourself:

1. You need to learn how to organize your time so that on arrival home, still for a household.

But it needs to follow a regime of sleeping and eating habits. Specifically, it is desirable to determine in what time will Wake-up and bedtime so that your body gets used. Then difficulties with early rise will not occur. The same applies to nutrition. Adhering to in the body has enough energy and strength. Continue reading

How to refresh family relationships.One day, every woman have to admit that her relationship with a man is not all right. She begins to notice that they are both estranged from each other. everyone does his own thing — there is still the need to constantly see, hear, feel the closeness. Intelligent woman not willing to lose his position, can not disturb it.

Most importantly, be confident in the fact that all this is the usual story for a long relationship, not to panic and make a clear plan of action:

1. Be sure to prioritize between work and family. To understand that family and family always comes first.

2. To arrange «down memory lane» — to revise the old photos (especially romantic, wedding), with the participation of the husband, of course. Continue reading

situation causes a lot of problemsThe same applies to monetary issues. Many couples put all the money into a common pot and then together decide what to spend them on.

But, like the absence of a personal residence, no personal money, and deprives people of a sense of freedom and independence.

Therefore, everyone should have your wallet and the opportunity to spend a certain amount without making any representation about where, when and what.

Often considered normal that a woman generally does not earn money, or earns enough to provide your own life. It would seem, nothing terrible, if a man is willing to take care of her. But on a psychological level, this situation causes a lot of problems. Continue reading

How to diversify family relationships?It is very important in family life, despite the second shift at the stove after work and many worries about the well-being of all members of the family, not to bring their relationship to the point that any strange man will seem much more interesting and more attractive than her own husband.

How to diversify family relationships, to the feeling of intimacy never left you, and meeting and talking with each other invariably brings you to a pleasant trembling and awe?

The simplest solution in this case might be to look at the pile of brochures and women’s magazines on “How to diversify the family sexual relations”, and then, armed with exotic knowledge and examining their ability to stand on your head or on the bridge simultaneously with twine, to indulge in all serious. But for such bold experiments still need soil in the form of a sincere, close relationship, full of trust and sincerity. It is in this case may be it does not matter where the right arm or left leg. And we’re this is their goal, isn’t it? Continue reading