before the wedding

Stop trying to manipulate family relationsWhen a child cannot get what you want, it starts to act up, take offense and throw tantrums — thus, it forces parents to obey his feeble will. A small miracle, walking under the table, can make adults dance to their tune.

It is not surprising that the technique of such manipulation is delayed and strengthened in his mind, as the most effective way to succeed.

But as the child Matures. Desires change, changing relationships with the world and other people, but the technique of manipulating only honed. Even where one would simply ask, in the course now comes the heavy artillery — the pressure on the pity, conscience, sense of duty, pride — just to avoid refusal and long explanations.

Manipulation is a way to get what you want from other people without having to bear for it any responsibility. Continue reading

How to build family relationshipsTo build good family relationships must meet three conditions. The first condition – the husband and wife must be bound to each other tender feelings. Second, they should equally invest in creating relationships. The third condition was fine. Without the adoption and implementation by both spouses of certain rules, regulations and prohibitions to build a stable relationship impossible.

Most problems in couples arise due to the violation of the second condition, when one of the spouses seems that he puts into the relationship much more than the other. In the first months after the wedding, you are full of plans, feelings and sensations that this happiness will be endless. But after a few months you can start annoying habits of a spouse, his manner to leave your stuff and sing in the bathroom. Continue reading

Keep a personal territory in family relationshipsAnother rampant and destructive misconception is that a man and a woman in love family relationships have to do everything together, sleep in the same bed, not have secrets and, in General, belong to each other completely.

Yes, at the initial stage of family relations and not want for a minute to break away from each other.

Friends, work, Hobbies — everything is put aside just to be together. It may be romantic, but to squeeze each other dry and immediately is dangerous. To reduce the whole meaning of life for family relations, even the most beautiful person, then to lose touch with reality.

As wonderful as these family relationships, sooner or later, they’ll tire of both. You can’t live with each other, otherwise, life will soon become black and white. But most couples do not understand and, conversely, strive to merge their lives into one. Continue reading

Freedom begets affectionTo preserve the freshness of family relations, we must abandon the pursuit of victory, certainty and stability. You need to overcome your fear and allow family relationships to teeter on the brink of fame and obscurity. Play as animals — growl, bite, rolling on the ground, but if the enemy is defeated on the scapula, it must be time to let go — because otherwise the game will end.

Through the fears and the usual representation it is difficult to cross, but the only way you can build a really light, honest and resilient family relationships.

To understand is to try it for yourself. Continue reading

Many years ago.Here comes business, successful girl. Short hair, business suit, more similar to the male, a portfolio of documents. It goes, firmly enunciating step. Look tense and staring off into the distance. She clearly does not notice the world: clouds that look like strange animals, chirping of birds, young trees that were recently planted in the Park, after which it rapidly goes to his goal.

Yes, she has a goal and no obstacles. She firmly and, if necessary firmly, to give orders to employees: when, who and what to do, where to call, what questions to resolve. Several facilities are in the plan for change. If time drags on, she personally, in spite of the late hour, gets in the car and leaves the building. To clarify the details with the Customer, negotiations with the Contractor, determine the cause of the delay, calls to other cities, the settlement of supply, to whom and how much is not paid, it is who and what is confused, what should be amended in the budget and so on, so on, so forth. Continue reading

As the birth of a child affects family relationshipsThe birth of a child inevitably predicts significant changes in family relationships. But what will become of these relationships, will they be able to unite the family or, conversely, will crack, depends on you.

Worldly wisdom says, “Warned – forearmed”, on this basis, we decided to describe the main “stumbling blocks” on the way to family well-being faced by spouses when a new family member. Relationships begin to change in the period, when a woman finds out that will become a mother. In addition to joy and happiness, she possessed the anxiety and fear of the unknown. Partner support is needed now more than ever. But many men are not aware that their beloved had changed, become more vulnerable. At the same time, the woman does not understand that parental instinct that awoke her, some time will be unknown to her partner. Continue reading

How to save the family relationship?Every family sooner or later there comes a time when a family on the horizon appear the clouds and the relationship starts to deteriorate for no particular reason. The reason for this may be mistrust, financial problems, home troubles and more.

How to save the relationship with her husband

To destroy the already fragile relationship easily, but to save them and to return back on track is much harder. You need to determine the causes of the disorder and calmly figure out how to save the relationship, which is “bursting at the seams”.

Do not resort to exceptional measures as long as possible, remember that talk about divorce you need to start only in a pinch. When the relationship is very shaky, need to do everything possible to rectify the situation. If You really love your husband, and he answers You back, You certainly will succeed. Continue reading